Are you looking for ways to increase a child’s positive attitude
As a children’s psychotherapist I knew that one of the single most powerful contributing factors to emotional wellbeing is to look positively at life. To see your triumphs and acknowledge them however big or small. To have gratitude for what had gone well and to recognise and celebrate it. This attitude enable robustness when life is challenging, it enables perspective when life seems bleak and it helps build resilience.
Positivity and gratitude are wonderful attitudes and attributes.
So many people moan (a lot) as pure habit. If you ask them how there day was and they’ll tell you what was ‘wrong ‘ with it. This focuis makes them feel even more down and down you go too. In the retelling the extra focus can intensify the problem. (of course real problems do need airing and possibly fixing) I am talking about general moans.
Very often I hear kids coming out of school whining about their day rather than spotting celebrating and sharing the wow moments from that day. It ‘s a bad attitude one we need to challenge if that child is not going to have a very negative view of their life.
Kids life coach (and my old school friend!) Naomi Richards has developed a wonderful tool called the WOW board to help children who have low self esteem and who tend to focus on the negative turn this around.
How to use it
At the end of each day you would encourage your child to write down what was good, great and what was wow about their day. They don’t have to make things up if day was just okay that fine. The boards encourage them to look more positively and not pass over the lovely bits of their life with barely a glance.
They can fill it in on their own or with an adult and they can use sporadically or regularly. Looking back over a completed week really can help a child see how full of good things there life really is.
My daughter had a go with this (she is 8) and I was surprised how simple her goods and wows were…e.g good ight be had an icecream after school, great could be playing cards with her brother and wow could be got a star at school. she beamed after completing it and felt so good about life. It definitely helped her look fro the positives and be more upbeat and confident.
A lovely thing to do before bed I think so they drift off with positive thoughts about their day. A lovely simple way to raise positivity and self esteem.
Wow Boards retail at £12.99 and are available to buy from Amazon.
You can read more about Naomi and her work with children at The Kids Coach