Saying no is tough but if you are on limited funds it is a necessity or you going to be in debt and stressed. Not good. Let’s look this week at how we say no ….to our kids, to other mums and to oursleves! Okay let’s look first at those pesky pesterers, the kids.
I suggest always
- Being firm and clear
- Moving away as swiftly as possible from the situation or subject and /or distraction.
as kids get a little bit older I recommend
- Saying no and explaining why briefly (e,.g not enough money / you laready have one / spoil you lunch.) Do not feel the need to keep repeating – they heard you the first time!
- moving forward and distracting.
A little bit older still
- Perhap you can anticipate what they may pester you for so you can state your intent clearly beforehand e.g We will not be buying a treat today at the shops. I only have money for milk and bread so please don’t ask.
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Sometimes (okay probably several times) despite these tactics your child may well whine, cry and say they hate you. Do try and deal with it and don’t try to appease it by giving in. Being a debt light parent is one of the best gifts you can give your child and saying no is excellent role modlelling.