When it comes to finding your path…
I’ve just been listening to Desert Island Discs (my guilty pleasure.) It was an old one with Duncan Bannantyne talking about his life and what has inspired him. Interestingly at 30 he was a man in trouble he had a criminal record. He had no job and he was drinking a bit too much. But he wanted kids and needed to buy a house so he set a course to afford them and began in business. I’m sure it wasn’t easy but he set off n the path that would get him what he wanted. He was focussed and he was determind. He is now worth £320 million pounds. Okay now that is inspirational!
It’s so interesting isn’t it? What we we pull out the bag for our or because of our children. I never thought I would have a business writing. I thought I would always work vocationally and with people. I had trained a long while to be a social worker and in many ways I did love my job pre-kids. But it just didn’tfit with my new life and how I wanted to parent. Finding your path is quite a journey and can take you in some funny directions but it is vital to know what you want.
I wanted to take my kids to school, pick them up, do their activities and take care of them in the holidays. Writing fits around that beautifully and I absolutely love it. Luckily ( and with a lot of support) at the moment this is working. Would I do it if I didn’t need to earn the money ? Yes (but a bit less) How lucky am I to find a job I would do for love. Would I have taken this path if I didn’t love to write?
Perhaps not, but I would try desperately to find something that fit around the kids lives as I really like to be a big part of that. That desire has dictated my path to a large extent. I think when It comes to finding your path you need to be clear about your key motivator.
I’ve seen lots of women carve out lives that fit how they want to care for their kids; juggling this here and there and achieving really creative and fulfilling lives too almost as a by product of this. I worry about financial security in the future from being self employed now but I also feel massively privileged that I have mostly all I want now. Well I say all I want, I still hanker after a glass house on the beach and a personal trainer, lovely clothes and sunshine holidays …
I am lucky and I have worked hard and today I am smiling and grateful. I need to remember this (when I’m shattered at half term and still typing at 2am) This was my dream and I am blessed to be on the course I chose.
How are you doing? Getting near the £320 million mark? Happy? Seeing enough of your kids? Have you found finding your path easy or full of crossroads and confusing signposts?